We, as people, have always been this way, quick to judge by appearances and even quicker to criticize when something doesn’t sit right with us. But are we wrong for that? Not really. It’s a defense mechanism. It’s easier to feel anger than to sit with hurt. So we move through life noticing what’s wrong first, constantly looking for ways to protect ourselves from pain. Last year, I was at a friend’s house. We were a big group of people brought together simply because our boyfriends and girlfriends were close. It was Christmas, and everyone exchanged gifts. I was genuinely excited to take part. When the day came, guess what I received? A horrific gift. I was genuinely on the verge of tears. Not liking someone is one thing, but intentionally ruining someone’s moment is another. A girl I barely speak to, but see almost daily, gifted me a male perfume . Okay, you might say I’m exaggerating. But what truly disgusted me was that the perfume was half-used . On that same day, I also received th...

This blog is also available as an ebook with guided questions for deeper self-discovery :  https://cosmicchoasjourney.gumroad.com/l/rdtpf There are moments in life when clarity arrives as reckoning. A  realization that you did not know you needed that something precious was always present, steady, loyal, and unchanging while your attention wandered elsewhere, chasing around instead of being present. This is not a story of loss born from malice or neglect, but from misunderstanding the self before understanding others. So often, the search for connection is misdirected. Validation becomes the compass. Acceptance becomes the currency. Attention becomes mistaken for something real. In that pursuit, the ones who offer consistency, patience, and emotional safety can fade into the background, not because they lack value, but because they do not demand performance. The gem was always there. From the beginning, there was a quiet presence that listened without interruption, stayed with...

                                               This blog is also available as an ebook with guided questions for deeper self-discovery. https://cosmicchoasjourney.gumroad.com/l/mygfu In a world that constantly tells us who to be, how to act, and what to like, the most radical act of self-love is to be unapologetically yourself. Being your own person is not about rebellion for the sake of defiance, nor about isolation from the collective. It is about reclaiming the sacred space of individuality. The space where your truth, your preferences, and your evolving self belong solely to you. To be your own person is to honor the fluidity of who you are. It is understood that change does not mean inconsistency; it means growth. One day, you may love the wild rhythm of rap, and the next, find peace in the softness of pop melodies. You may wake up wanting to wear something elegan...

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop of what-ifs and worst-case scenarios, only to feel your heart start to race and your chest tighten? If so, you’re not alone. Overthinking and anxiety often go hand in hand, and it can be hard to tell where one ends and the other begins. Let’s explore how they feed off each other and, more importantly, how we can begin to break free from this exhausting cycle. Why Do Overthinking and Anxiety Work Together? It’s almost like they’re partners in crime: anxiety triggers overthinking, and overthinking amplifies anxiety. Anxiety is that underlying feeling of worry or unease, usually about something uncertain. It often pushes us to try to control every detail to avoid potential dangers or mistakes. This is where overthinking comes in; you end up replaying scenarios in your head, analyzing every little thing in an attempt to find some kind of solution or reassurance. The problem? The more you overthink, the more anxious you become. It’s a never-endin...

Life’s journey is rarely straightforward. At different stages, whether in your twenties, thirties, or even your sixties, you may feel the need to hit the reset button, feeling adrift and unsure of what lies ahead. Maybe you’ve just finished school, started a new job, or find yourself facing a personal challenge that’s left you feeling a bit lost. The good news is, you’re not alone in this experience. Many others have stood where you are now, and with a bit of introspection and a few guiding steps, you can chart your path forward. 🎧 Prefer listening? Watch the audio version of this post on YouTube .  Click  here to listen and reflect as you go. Step 1: Acknowledge Your Feelings  Feeling lost or uncertain is more common than you might think. Acknowledging your feelings isn’t just okay. It’s necessary. It’s often the first, most crucial step to moving forward. When you accept these emotions without judgment, you create space to process them and understand their root ca...